One Small Step for Equality, No Giant Leap for Black People

©Disney

The battle to overturn systemic racism and end police brutality is going to be the fight of all our lives. Just having the world wake up to the real issue of racist oppression and the havoc it has, and is wreaking on Black people is a major win. However, it is not the only battleground we have to show up at, and fight hard to make  gains on. Whatever gains we make in overthrowing the oppressive system cannot be consolidated unless we Black people actually uplift and enlighten ourselves. If we don’t become better as individuals, and a people then it will all be for nothing.

How many Black people have felt stigmatised in their communities for focusing on their education, careers or health? It is typical for Black people dismiss other Black people as squares or wannabes for wanting to get an education. Building a career and getting a regular office job is often considered selling out. Adopting a healthy lifestyle for anything other than aesthetics is seen as just an incomprehensibly lame thing to do.

During this covid-19 pandemic Black people have not always shown the best judgement or awareness of personal or public safety. And this is despite the fact that we have been one of the groups most vulnerable to infection and serious illness. Too often Black people have been some of the first to show up at illegal raves, and some of the last to socially distance or wear a face covering. We need to understand the difference between being a smartass and actually being smart. The reckless behaviour has not been atypical of the behaviour of a lot of Britons; who have preferred to wear their masks on their chins, off their noses, on their necks, over an eye, on their belts, and in their hands. But Black people cant afford to just follow the prevailing wind. They need to know when to be better. 

We need more people in families and the local communities to be role models to the rest of our people. It is fine to admire celebrities and the wealthy but their lives do not reflect the reality most of us have to contend with. We need people to set the right examples in getting the most from education, how to work hard, being responsible, and giving back to the community. People can lose their way or fall foul of the law and become rehabilitated. We want to be able to laud them for their resilience and redemption rather than hold them in thrall as outlaws or rebels. We can’t afford to give up on ourselves. 

Good parenting needs to be restored to it’s rightful place; front and centre of the Black community. Whatever the make up of the family, the upbringing of children must be given the priority it needs. That isn’t to say that it will be easy or without considerable challenges but it is central to how we as Black people make a better future for ourselves. In order to be better parents and role models to young people Black people need to reflect on what their values are; and how they deal with the personal and social challenges facing them. If people cannot show resilience and fortitude then it is unlikely they will inspire the youth to walk a path of integrity and selfless service. 

The hope we have is that we as a people enlighten ourselves and find the strength to stand tall in the face of inequality and oppression. In making better choices we can encourage the youth to become aspirational and personally fulfilled. The danger we face isn’t missing our way but in never having a better path to follow. 

Troublingly Different

We can be of different gender, race, sexuality, ethnicity, faith, ideology, ability and yet still find things to unite us. We all want love, safety, security, health, shelter, and the best for those we care about. We have no right to deprive anyone of any of these things; and no one should feel entitled to deprive us of it. Unfortunately, individual mindsets and society itself are being conditioned to believe inequality is the just dessert of the underclass.

There are so many contradictions in modern day American society; and too few Americans are doing enough to confront them. America wants to be strong but it can’t abide the idea of free or universal healthcare. America wants to be wealthy but it continues to sow the seeds of disunity and conflict across its communities. America wants to be safe but it holds fast to the idea that unfettered access to guns is at the heart of being American.

Law enforcement in America claims that its many killings and shootings of Black people is in response to the threat they pose, and are perceived to pose to law enforcement officers. However, the one thing that would drastically reduce that threat would be gun control. There is no doubt that a reduction of personal gun ownership would significantly reduce the cases of law enforcement officers being confronted by armed assailants. Unfortunately, history has shown that this would probably not equivalently result in a reduction of police brutality on Black people. The incidence of unarmed Black people being violently confronted or killed by the police speaks for itself.

Since after World War 2 when people from Africa and the Caribbean were ushered into Britain to help with the rebuilding of the shattered nation; they have been confronted with being told to go back to where they came from. This is still a common occurrence across the United Kingdom. There is a core of British people who just hate the presence of foreigners. They just won’t ever be British enough for them. There is another section of society that sees diversity as a threat. They continue to stereotype people of colour even when the objects of their vitriol were born in the UK and are actually British citizens.

Prejudice and discrimination are learned traits. As much as individuals and groups are the perpetrators of the rough and harsh justice being dealt out to minorities; it is society and its institutions that have normalised and reinforced the oppression that minorities have had to endure and live with. There has to be some recognition that there will be no real change in people until social institutions themselves are reconditioned. Any calls to defund the police, reform education, restructure healthcare, refocus the justice system, or address institutional racism are not about shutting down the institutions. Rather it’s about redirecting policy and retraining organisations to better meet the needs of a changing society. Improvements are needed and it will take a lot of work to make them happen. However, everyone will need to trouble themselves to make the difference that is needed for things to get better for all people. I believe this is what the late John Lewis, the American civil rights pioneer called; making “good trouble”.

Masking the Distance

© Mizo Ozim 

What’s left after corona?
How do we move on from the aroma?
Do we go big?
Do we go small?
Do we use just a sprig,
Or the whole damn stall?

These new norms we’ve learned
Will they fix the bridges we’ve burned?
Will there be life after corona
Or is life as we know it truly over?
How far do we have to travel
Before things completely unravel?

Has covid-19 taken more than it has given?
Has it left left us with more than just a burden?
Is there a way for us to recover?
Or are we just going to keep tottering till we fall over?

I can’t go out.
I can’t breathe in.
I need to shout
But can’t say why I’m grieving.

Time to Push Back

Prejudice and discrimination are pernicious. It doesn’t matter who is doing it, or where it’s happening. Whether it’s the UK, USA, Rwanda, Libya, Saudi Arabia, Israel, China, Brazil, Australia or Canada. The damage that centuries of oppression has done to people of colour is generational. What that means is that when things come to a boil a bloody battle is bound to ensue. The establishment is going to fight to maintain the status quo and Black people will need to fight back just as hard for change. The likelihood of these clashes causing chaos and becoming violent is high. Nobody is trying to tear down their own neighbourhoods but change is a unstoppable force and prejudice and privilege want to be an immovable object. And therefore a cataclysmic reaction must result.

The fact that there has been violence at protests has not subverted or distracted from the mission to tackle and push back on systemic racism and brutality by the establishment. There is a clear imperative to highlight oppression and discrimination while calling for action to end it and mitigate its impact. As much as people need to be safe during protest the time to be passive is past.

These protests are not about taking over. They are about taking a seat at the table. A seat that has long been denied us. Too many people who have been let in have failed to represent the interests of minorities robustly. People have compromised and conceded ground to institutional discrimination. Being a minority means that democratic processes too often fail to provide a platform to combat discrimination and inequality.

We are not safe in our homes. We are not safe on the streets. We are not safe at work. We are no longer prepared to silently object while we are being viciously and systematically oppressed and brutalised.

There are inequalities for us to rise up against and fight to overcome. We want justice but we also have needs.

• We want law enforcement to ban all procedures that allow the use of violence against unarmed and unresisting Black peoples.
• We want all deaths in police custody or by police actions to be be reported and investigated independently. 
• We want to be able to live and work in any community without being stigmatised and harassed. 
• We want the ability to bring diversity into a workplace to be recognised as a special skill and competence. 
• We want public and corporate policies to be subject to equality impact assessments. 
• We want disadvantaged minorities to have access to state funded education and primary healthcare. That is why we vote. If other people don’t want it then that’s their problem. 
• We want the establishment and organisations to stop agreeing that Black Lives Matter, and start proving it. 

We don’t want to have to run or hide. We just want to live and thrive. 

The Covid-19 Afterlife

Social distancing, lockdown, vaccination, ‘r’ number, shielding, NHS heroes are all words which we may not have been consciously aware of before. However, the new normal appears to be a life of better respect for personal space, improved personal hygiene, hoarding food and cleaning supplies, and a pathological fear of viral infections. After 9/11 things mostly changed for travelers despite the severity of the tragedy for those affected by the terrorist attack. However, it is a certainty that the aftermath of the covid-19 pandemic will affect all people all over the world.

I’m getting used to a world where I do not shake hands or arbitrarily hug anymore. This is quite a challenging adjustment. For a Black man, and in particular a Black African man shaking hands is an innate bonding experience. In fact, to not do so is generally seen as a form of aggression. It does seem that meeting with strangers will involve quite a bit of awkwardness while trying to decide how to navigate social greeting. Some people though have reverted to shaking hands and embracing in public routinely even while the risk of infection still exists.

Hopefully the strategic and operational approach to homelessness should change. It is possible to fund short stay shelters and even temporary accommodation for the homeless. However what must not be overlooked is the critical role that support and care will lend to managing homelessness. The need for emotional and mental health support for the homeless and people sleeping rough should not be overlooked. Housing is just one aspect of the problem. The difficulties they face in adjusting back into organised society and reacquiring life skills are daunting. However, indications are that things will return to the normal state of affairs when it comes to consideration of the homeless.

It would appear that working from home is going to become more prevalent now. It might even evolve into becoming the norm. With office space becoming difficult to keep decontaminated a lot of organisations might just start asking groups of workers to work from home as part of the terms and conditions of employment. It is very likely that hotdesking will be ruled out altogether. While working from home is a good way to offer flexibility to workers it can also mean that some workers can be pressured into taking on even heavier workloads. Without supervision, or as a result of personal pressure individuals might find themselves taking on too much work over too many hours.

It doesn’t seem like social distancing will hold out for very long on public mass transit. People are likely to pack themselves into whatever mode of transport they need to get where they’re going. However, it is quite likely that long distance air travel might present people with some concerns. Airports and airlines will have to introduce a raft of precautionary measures but who knows if these will be enough to guarantee safety or offer reassurance. It is very likely that the nature of personal service might change somewhat.

Social distancing will certainly challenge the retail shopping business model. The idea of cramming as many people as possible into an available space will need to be set aside for a while. Some enterprises might be able to get by with controlling traffic but others just won’t be able to survive on having so few people able to enter at any point in time.

Certain sporting activities will need to carefully consider what it will take for them to safely be resumed. Public participation events like runs may have to be limited to elite competitors for the foreseeable future. It is likely to require all participants to be tested for covid-19 and then quarantined before the day the event. I don’t see organisers being willing to shoulder this burden to ensure mass participation.

It does seem that the pandemic is unlikely to have too much of an effect on people’s love lives from what we have seen during the lockdown. The cavalier way in which some people have flouted lockdown guidelines to get their rocks off suggest that viral infection holds no peril for them. If you throw alcohol into the mix then quite a few are not going to know whether they are coming or going; nevermind what distance they are at.

Certainly covid-19 will leave us with a culture of improved hand hygiene. This is long overdue if you ask me. I know for me, I have reacquainted myself with breathing with my mouth closed. Not sure how or when I got away from that in the first place. Different countries are going to get the epidemic under control at different rates so it might be necessary to keep taking precautions quite some time into the future.

The Corona of Our Souls

© Luke Viatour

It is interesting that in an era of globalisation where the world is meant to be wealthier and healthier the covid-19 virus has now left us closed off and isolated. An aunt of mine was telling me how she didn’t think that people who had never been to China should have to deal with the virus. I had to point out to her that even if she had never been to China; in reality China had definitely been to her. Her clothes, shoes, appliances were all most likely manufactured in China. The cost of seeking cheaper costs of production and bigger markets is that we need to do more to jointly manage risks and provide protection for all parts of the world.

We live in a country, and maybe world; where people are more responsive to being cared for than responsible for being caring. People freely go about with very little sense of duty towards one another but expect the ultimate sacrifice if they find themselves in jeopardy. Sometimes in times of crises you suddenly see the masses of people pulling apart rather than together. In the UK this has been demonstrated by panic buying and stockpiling of essential goods by some people.

The UK government hatched a cunning plan to cull the population through herd immunity. This has resulted in some people being refused treatment and ending up dying at home. In the US Congress, the Democrats had to battle it out with the Republicans to ensure that low income families got a reasonable stake of the trillion dollar stimulus package targeted at corporate America. Meanwhile, in the US state of Nevada they drew chalk outlines in a open air car park so the homeless people they intended to house their could be socially distanced. Somewhere else in America some politicians were attempting to stage a sneak attack on abortion rights by declaring abortions a non essential service. The president of Brazil went on Twitter to try and discredit efforts being made to curtail the spread of the disease. In India government workers ended up spraying migrant workers trying to get home with disinfectant meant for vehicles.

The actions of the human race continue to damage and threaten the future existence of life as we know it. The urge to kill and eat rare species of animal contributed to the Coronavirus pandemic that is wreaking havoc globally. The environment is badly damaged, and continuously under threat from pollution and poisoning stemming from humanity’s actions. Animals are being hunted for game and forced into extinction. Today we are being ravaged by covid-19 but twenty years ago it was ‘mad cow disease’ caused by questionable agricultural practices that was causing a healthcare and economic catastrophe.

Government neglect of the homeless has been brought into stark relief during this pandemic. However, the Coronavirus is just one of a myriad of afflictions that homeless people are at risk of. The fact that provision is being made for the homeless in order to combat the spread of covid-19 is an indication that it is financing that is deterring public services from providing effective support to the homeless to get them off the streets and the care they desperately need. There is a need to recognise that there needs to be a mandatory duty on central and local government to provide shelter and emotional care for the homeless. If a person with no fixed abode was found lying in the street with a broken leg they would be admitted into hospital and treated until they were healed. When homeless people, who often have mental health concerns, are found sleeping rough very little regard is given to providing treatment and accommodation for them until they are better. The homeless person has to literally navigate an over complicated bureaucracy just to get listened to.

The need for free access to primary healthcare is being demonstrated everyday. It isn’t possible to have a healthy and safe population if an individual’s means determines their ability to receive basic healthcare provision. Having a healthcare system that is responsive to the needs of the entire population is vital for public health.

The pandemic has forced some us to look inward and really take stock of who we are; and what should be important to us. For some, it has brought out something dark and disturbing in them that they have probably been trying all their lives to conceal. From panic buying and hoarding, to people having house parties and barbecues during lockdown there has been some mind boggling misbehaviour on display. It is understandable that people are scared and fearful for what might happen to them and what the future might hold. However, right now it is only by caring about the wellbeing of those around us that we can ensure our own wellbeing.

Intimate Knowledge

Growing up almost no one learnt about sex in a way that was healthy or wholesome. The instruction or information about sex always tended to be biased based on religion, ignorance, experience or perversion. Ultimately most of the sex education came from films, tv, peers, books; and now the internet. Inevitably almost everyone grows up with sexual hang ups and blind spots. There are so many things that children and youth are warned off, some for good reason. However, others are just stuff that some people consider taboo or unpleasant. The end result tends to be that a lot of people grow up approaching sex with differing loaded perceptions and attitudes. This isn’t always good in the future for the person or their prospective partner.

One of those aspects of sex that divides a lot of people is oral sex. It doesn’t help that over time it has developed a bad reputation. It is commonly associated with prostitution, and young lads pressuring girls for sex. There’s also a myth that in school so-called loose girls tend to dispense it rather freely. Given the personal hygiene regimen of most boys I doubt that oral sex would be an choice delight for many young girls. The depiction of oral sex in porn is often very aggressive and displeasingly domineering.

I am one of those people who has never been completely at ease with oral sex. I am willing to do cunnilingus but am not known to proactively volunteer it. It doesn’t always feel like a trip to the rose garden. But am generally not a big eater anyway. I have heard some guys say that it isn’t manly, while others shy away on hygiene grounds. I know of some women who feel it isn’t just ladylike. Some women have actually suggested that it is deviant and too far a line to cross sexually. Oral sex doesn’t have to be everybody’s thing. And if you’re not prepared to be open to it then it might be best to steer clear of it. There is nothing more agonising than bad sex. Chewing and chomping on intimate parts is not cool, no matter the good intentions. There is a reason why Jabba the Hutt in Star Wars is portrayed as a glutton and not a Lothario.

Having a good feel for your partner’s body means knowing your partner’s body intimately. More than just knowing how a body works. This goes beyond just feeling your partner’s body. It means recognising that your partner’s body has its own unique texture, fragrance and vibration. It means you enveloping yourself in your partner’s body in a way that gives you a feel for it that is beyond touch. And when you close your eyes and think of your partner’s body you can see, smell, taste, hear and feel the body even without you being aroused. You’re just that in tune with it. It is hard to imagine a person lying next to a vibrant and dynamic being night after night but really only thinking of themselves. They can see and feel the body but everything it does is just incidental to them. These are the “you didn’t tell me you like that” folk who come to sex with a one track mind.

Sex is supposed to be an intensely intimate and satisfying experience. In order to have a fulsome and fulfilling sexual experience it is necessary to explore all of the body. That is the only way to find out what you like and what your partner appreciates. It is mind boggling that there are men who after decades of a sexual relationship probably would not recognise their partners vagina if it was projected on an IMAX screen. That can’t be right. Oral sex isn’t just about having oral contact but also about having a complete experience of a partners’ private part and sensuality. It develops a knowledge of the organ and sensations and reactions that go along with the interaction with it. It means appreciating your partner’s body and what pleases your partner. That is the true path to actually giving your partner pleasure.