Was watching a U.S. tv sitcom where a woman was despairing of her husband's hapless efforts in the boudoir. He thought he was being caring and compassionate but she found his efforts routine, dull and passionless. It occurred to me that women really do endure a lot when it comes to men's bedroom fumblings. A lot of women have the most dissatisfying experiences in bed yet avoid telling the man how bad it was. Sometimes they try to be sensitive to his ego; conscious of the difficult discussion that might follow. Other times they keep quiet to avoid being labelled promiscuous. But they should bear in mind Michel de Montaigne's recollection of a quote by Pythagoras' daughter in law. She said, "a woman who goes to bed with a man ought to lay aside her modesty with her skirt, and put it on with her petticoat".
While women tend to have the most difficulty being satisfied during sex men certainly have to bear the greater burden of performance.
Whether it is challenges with erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, size issues or technique the male faces an uphill task satisfying the female. Unfortunately too many men are blissfully ignorant of this.
They get so excited by the mere prospect of bedding a woman that too many of them are already rolling over and sighing with pleasure before the woman even has a chance to lift her legs up.
The truth is men need help in the bedroom. Whether it's about creating the right mood, being gentle, foreplay, putting on a condom without a disaster happening or bringing the woman to orgasm; none of these come naturally to a guy. So while it isn't the woman's responsibility to instruct a man in the ways of the boudoir, a little word in our ear from time to time won't go amiss.
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